Nowadays, it is commonly found that youngsters, reaching puberty, look forward to dating and they are keen on developing a love relationship at an early stage. I am writing to discuss the advantages and disadvantages of dating when in F.5.
The first advantage of dating in F.5 is that under the huge pressure from the public examination HKCEE, teens can enjoy romantic fun to ease their worries. If the students can strike a balance between study and dating, dating can be an effective way to relieve their pressure, even enhancing their learning efficiency. In addition, the youngsters can become intimate friends who can share more in-depth feelings and struggles which they may not expose to others. It can be a support to them as they are facing stiff academic competition and other challenges.
It is also said that when the young couples deal with mutual disagreements, they can understand better on how to get along with the opposite sex. This encourages the youngsters to think from the different perspectives, which is important to them when they have to work with people of a different gender in the future.
Yet, I am rather reserved about the benefits of dating at the critical stage of F.5. There are doubts on whether teens are mature enough to handle the conflicts with the opposite sex and their studies at the same time. The quarrels between the young couples can drive them crazy. Not only the teens have to focus on the preparation of CE, but they have also to figure out what their boyfriends or girlfriends are thinking. Furthermore, the teens are likely to spend a lot of time on dating, which makes it even more difficult to revise under the packed schedule of schoolwork. In short, dating is surely a big distraction for the S5 students to concentrate on their study, which is actually what they should focus at the moment.
Moreover, dating may not be as sweet as expected if the teens know what love is. Dating is far more than shopping, watching movies and having meals together. If they don’t handle the relationship properly, dating can be destructive. For example, when the youngsters do not uphold a high moral boundary, they may have pre-martial sex and even abortion at the stage of F.5. When the young lovers break up, there will be deep mental scars to both the girls and boys. Therefore, they are not that well prepared to be involved in love when they are in F.5.
All in all, there are both bright and down sides to dating in F.5. Personally I don’t think F.5 students should date because it is very hard to make a balanced time management between study and dating. The best love experience is yet to come, but definitely not in F.5
Pros and cons of dating in high school
Being in a relationship with another person is not always solely romantic. By spending time together, two people are able to express their feelings openly, whether happy or sad, to one another. This emotional bond couples share is a good outlet for relieving some of the stress that comes from daily life.
Relationships offer a person the comfort of being with someone. Having someone to turn to as a best friend lets one maintain a strong friendship and simply enjoy the physical company of his or her significant other.
Having a girlfriend or boyfriend helps to expand one’s viewpoints on the world. As two people begin to develop a partnership, they begin to gain a better understanding of each other’s beliefs and values. They learn to become more open-minded and accepting of not only themselves but also of other people. This experience allows them to reflect on their own thoughts and explore their partner’s new perspectives on life as well.
Young people who date are able to acquire more relationship experience. Through hanging out with their significant others and enduring breakups, they become better communicators. They learn to compromise with other people and do what’s best for both parties. High school dating gives an individual firsthand experience, which can prevent him or her from receiving unfair treatment in the future.
Distraction from School
High school relationships can pose as major distractions from academics and extracurriculars. The time two spend together cuts time away from more important tasks such as completing homework and preparing for tests. Those who become overly indulged in their relationship can lose focus and do worse in class.
Loss of Identity
Oftentimes, one feels pressured to do whatever it takes to satisfy his or her significant other. While it’s important that both people in a relationship are happy, they can easily lose sight of their personal well-being. The unspoken obligation to make one’s partner happy is ultimately self-damaging.
A strong, healthy relationship is built upon devotion and dedication. Investing time and energy into a relationship is a huge commitment and competes with schoolwork, extracurriculars and personal time. Unknowingly, goals are even pushed aside to make time for the significant other, and the focus on academic success becomes secondary.
Dating in high school may seem fun and exciting, but it can also have negative consequences. Many students who get into a relationship too early do not understand what is needed to uphold it. This can be hurtful in the long run for the person since he or she is not completely knowledgeable about the necessary treatment they are entitled to. As a result, the possibility of generating abusive tendencies or tolerance in the future is higher.
By Sophia Ding, Feature editor, and Sabrina Wan, Designer
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